Destroying Pessimism – help fix my bleeped up thought process, and help yours too!

I very recently read a story in the news about a man that beat his girlfriend with a two week old puppy until it died. Minutes later I read about a couple here in West Michigan who raped a one year old little girl – and videotaped it. It doesn’t stop there- there were stories of a baby found at a recycling center, of murders and lies… what the hell? And this is just the news for one day.

bad news

I let my mind stew on it for a bit, even shed some tears at how cruel humans have become (or maybe its just that technology has allowed us to read more about them) and then headed to the bathroom to get ready for the day. I looked in the mirror.

And immediately my thought process was this, no joke:

Holy huge shitballs you’re fat. You need redo do your roots.  You need to pluck your eyebrows. Your house is a mess. You’re a loser. You have no money. You’re not married or even engaged after 10 years of being in a relationship?…its doomed.  You’re never going to find another job again. Your life is crazy. Your life is boring. Holy HOT MESS EXPRESS. You have no fri-


Okay, Okay- you get the idea. Not a very ‘go get ’em’ attitude, right?

I used to be the girl with all the gumption and positivity and goals and dreams and plans. I believed in the good of every soul, I believed in fairy tales. And now – well I have to believe that part of me is still buried somewhere inside. Otherwise there’s no point to anything. I refuse to live in a world where I wake up with the notion that good exists but evil overbears it and that there’s nothing we can do about it. I used to call it realism– You can’t escape the bad. Bad shit happens. I was glad to not be an ignorant moron who pranced through fields of wildflowers singing songs of joy and hope and peace.

But wait.

That’s kinda what I did want to be. What?! Bad stuff does happen. There is NO denying it. And I think as the people of the world we can do a lot better at avoiding these things or helping when these things do happen. But I want to believe in good things too. In true love, in peace, in joy, in simplicity, IN MYSELF again. I want the good thoughts and the good vibes to overcome the bad. I want the belief in myself to overpower the thoughts of potential eternal loser-dom. I want to fight for what I believe in – to help even ever-so-slightly to reduce the amount of bad news in the world.


(specifically about myself and my outlook on life) That’s my 2015 TAKEBACK. What’s yours?

SO, here’s the challenge.

Started by Chloesconcept, the “Take back what’s Yours” campaign encouraged people to do just that – TAKE BACK WHAT’S YOURS. Your optimism, your life, your health, your circumstance, your hope, your dog from your ex, your ANYTHING.  Just to give props, I initially about this campaign from this blogger’s site! Check it out.

If you want to join this movement as well you pessimistic little bastards, here’s what you gotta do!

  1. Pick something you want to TAKE BACK. (Make sure its yours to take though, 😉 )
  2. Create your own blog post (Or just comment if you’re not a blogger..) talking about this campaign, what it means to you, and your personal story
  3. Tag as many bloggers as you can, or actively post in comments of other like-minded bloggers to encourage them to participate.
  4. If you want to, include a photo of yourself with a handmade Take Back What’s Yours poster

Think about the positive things in your life. Write them down. Tape them on your mirror. Put ’em on your fridge. Make a list and add to it everyday. Make a list of the negative things and then BURN THEM. Do something you love to do instead of sulking in your underwear and eating ice cream all day. I’m no life-coach, so I can’t tell you HOW to do this… but this campaign at least lets us know we are not alone and we are willing to FIGHT.

At least take the time to think about what I’m saying – take it from a current pessimist. It feels good for a split second to say derogatory things or hate the world for what its done to you. But stop it – it feels good for a lot longer to have confidence and control. Always remember you have potential. If your thoughts stink, take a shower, put on some deodorant, and freshen them up. You deserve to smile. You deserve to feel good about yourself. Unless you’re the people I mentioned in the news above, then you just suck.

I’d love to hear your TAKE BACK ideas and your progress. Humor is key.  GOOD LUCK YA’LL!



There is one comment

  1. howtobejillian

    You know, your point about all of the horrible things in the world is excellent. I basically don’t even read the news anymore because it breaks my heart. I can’t even stand how awful people are, and seeing those things leads to a cycle of depressing thoughts.

    We can’t change other people, but we can change ourselves (and especially the way we threat ourselves). I am the first to admit I’m not good at this. I do the same thing you talked about when I look in the mirror. In fact, I hate to even look in the mirror. But if we’re not going to be nice to ourselves, who will?


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